Two are better than one (Friendship)

Scripture References: Ecclesiastes 4:7-12; Proverbs 18:1, 17:17, 18:24; Genesis 2:18; Mark 14:32-42

Intro: We often think major crises are things like pandemics. But in May 2023, the US Surgeon General declared a public health crisis of loneliness and isolation, comparing its health impact to smoking 15 cigarettes daily. This isn't just a modern problem; scripture spoke about the dangers of isolation and the essential value of connection thousands of years ago. Today’s sermon tackles this "friendship recession" and God's design for meaningful relationships.

Key Points:

1. The Crisis is Real: Statistics show a dramatic decline in close friendships over decades, exacerbated by modern life and the pandemic. We're facing epidemic levels of loneliness, affecting mental, physical, and societal health.
2. Ancient Wisdom on Isolation: Solomon warned against isolation (Prov 18:1), calling it selfish and breaking "against all sound judgment." In Ecclesiastes 4, he calls a life focused on toil without relationships "vanity and an unhappy business."
3. God's Design for Connection: From the beginning (Genesis 2:18), God declared, "It is not good that the man should be alone." Loneliness predates sin; it's a fundamental human ache pointing to our need for others.
4. "Two Are Better Than One": Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 highlights friendship's benefits: better rewards for toil, mutual support in hardship ("lift up his fellow"), shared warmth, and strength against opposition ("A threefold cord is not quickly broken"). Friendship is one area Solomon doesn't call meaningless.
5. Community vs. True Friendship: Being in a crowd, even church community, doesn't guarantee connection (Prov 18:24). We need friends who truly know us, not just companions. Avoid being "lonely in a crowded room."
6. The Necessity of Vulnerability: Deep friendship requires getting real and being known (Mark 14). Jesus modeled this, sharing his deepest anguish with his closest friends, even though they failed him. This points to our need for God's grace to pursue friendship despite risks.

Conclusion: Friendship isn't just a nice extra; it's vital, a "school of virtue" as C.S. Lewis said. It reflects the gospel – being fully known and fully loved, first by God, then echoed in human relationships. While pursuing friendship involves risks like rejection, Jesus provides the model and the strength to forgive and keep connecting.

Call to Action: Don't passively drift in the current of loneliness. Intentionally cultivate friendships:

• Initiate: Reach out consistently. Be the one to start.
• Make Time: Find small pockets of time (commutes, calls, texts).
• Use What You Have: In-person is best, but texts/calls are better than silence.
• Be a Friend: Stop seeking the "perfect" friend; be a friend to those around you.
• Be Vulnerable: Share appropriately in safe contexts to build deep connection. Seek prayer if you're struggling with loneliness or need healing in relationships.

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Two are better than one ( Ecclesiastes 4:7-12)
with Glenn Power